Why I’m Happy I Married Young
Ask anyone who’s married young and they’ll have already heard everyone’s opinion, whether invited or not. But how does someone who’s actually married before turning 20, feel about their decision ten years later? Here are my favourite parts about it:
At first I had a lot of anxiety about getting married young. I’d always pictured myself as the kind of person who gets married later in life. Was this the right thing to do? It was. Every time I come home after a long day in the soul-sucking world outside, I’m able to see and kiss and talk to a wonderful person that I’ve taken some big life steps with. It’s not all sweetness of course, but having and maintaining that relationship earlier in life seems like a great gift to me.
I’m not gonna lie, finances were tight with fledgling careers and a new baby, but we’ve never regretted marrying and starting a family young. Had we been in our 30s or 40s when we got married, we would have missed out on many unique growing experiences. I would tell anybody who is certain they have found their life partner to not wait. It’s true that it gave us more time together too. In our 20s, we launched our careers, travelled, and bought our first home (and did a lot of work on it). We had our son before then too, which was great because we were still young. We’re now set to be empty nesters when I’m still in my 30s! That hopefully will give us decades together.
And truthfully, yes, before you turn 20, you haven’t fully grown into the person you’re meant to be yet. That can be a scary season for sure, with so many uncertainties in life. Wins, failures, closed doors and new experiences all ahead. I️ can’t imagine going through any of those things without him by my side though, knowing that he’s in it for the long haul. In the midst of absolute chaos, he’s an absolute certainty. I️ don’t think I️ would have come out of it the same way without him. When we first got engaged I️ heard so many people (uninvited input, I might add) say things like, why so young, aren’t you afraid you are going to grow apart? And personally I️ think it does the opposite. I️ think you grow together.
We had time to be friends, work together, goof off, and just grow in our relationship. We learned to be there for each other when all you have is almost nothing. I know that he loves me for me, and I love him for him. Because I didn’t have anything else to give but me.
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