Merry Christmas! We all know that for some of us, Christmas is going to be a bit strange once again this year.
I know that many of us haven’t been able to see our extended family for quite some time, so go ahead and pick up that FaceTime and try your very best to spend time together remotely. Joy is lovely to be spread in person. But when we can’t and if it’s a little different this year. Calling, video chatting is just as important.
One of the hardest parts of the holidays is that sometimes, for the first time, there might be an empty chair. I know that’s been a part of many people’s journeys over the last couple of years. Know that while grief never entirely goes away, there will be times when emotions are much more heightened than others and when the sense of loss can feel harder to bear.
Christmas – the season which celebrates love and family time – is most certainly one of these times. It doesn’t matter whether your special person died a few weeks, months or years ago; you may struggle to cope with your grief at Christmas.
When you’re grieving, everyone handles their emotions differently. So here are some tips if you’re facing the dilemma of how to handle this Christmas.
Don’t do the things you’re finding hard to do; it’s alright to let these go this year or next until you can cope with social events again.
Remember your loved ones in a particular way; maybe light a candle for them on Christmas Day or place a decoration on the Christmas tree to symbolise them.
Allow yourself to grieve; the days leading up to Christmas can heighten your grief. It’s alright to cry and let people know that it’s hard living without someone special. Now’s the time to tell a close friend that you’re struggling to put on a happy face and that you’d appreciate their support.
If you know someone who is grieving this Christmas, give them a call, write them a special card, and acknowledge their loss. Let them know that you understand that it may be a challenging time for them because it’s Christmas, and there are memories everywhere of how the holiday season used to be.
The spirit of Christmas isn’t us just getting together in person. It’s getting to honour our histories, our traditions and the love that travels from generation to generation.
We’re together in this. It’s been another year unlike any other, but there are better days ahead. So hold on to the spirit. Hold on to the vibes, the energy that never dies.
So whether you’ve got your whole family with you this year, or you’re having a virtual Christmas. We’re in this fight together. Shine bright no matter where you are, lovelies!
Wherever and whatever you find yourself doing during this festive period, be sure to appreciate your loved ones and stay thankful for everything you have.
To the first time readers, to the OGs who’ve been here as long as me. We need every single one of you showing up strong, staying in that fight and being a total knockout! May your home be filled with good food, twinkly lights and Christmas traditions.
Merry Christmas and a happy holiday season from Vivre Le Rêve!
Stay safe and take care, xoxo.