Make sure you’re on the right site
There are actually big differences between dating websites. You need to have the right strategy going into it and stick to your goal like you would any other online strategy. You will have to take some type of action to find Mr Right. Staying at home with all of the work you need to catch up on isn’t going to get you to the man you want. Getting online, smiling and flirting with men in the real world, these are the surest ways of making your dreams of finding a good man come true.
Ask the right questions
Whether you’re an experienced online dater or you’re looking for a more traditional connection, you need a very clear basis to help you tell the difference between the guys worth your time and the one’s you just shouldn’t bother with. Being cliché is not the way to start a meaningful conversation. Half the battle in online dating is separating the fake from the real. It’s true that the quality of the questions you ask, go some way to discovering the true nature of the person you are conversing with. Here are some examples of questions you can use:
- If you had all the time, money and resources in the world, and you couldn’t use it for selfish gain – what would you do?
- Shark diving, bungee jumping, or sky diving?
- Salty or sweet popcorn?
Start lighthearted and go from there. You’d be surprised at how much more likely potential suitors are to reply to this kind of question.
Overcoming any fear empowers us
The fear itself is almost always worse than the feared object. Take small steps that will lead you to bigger ones and with each you gain more confidence and power. If you can have faith that the future holds new promises, opportunities and possibilities, then yes it will. Remember self-fulfilling prophecies? It becomes a matter of choice: be in fear or be in a belief of the possibilities that life holds for you still.
Be open about what you want
Many people using locally themed dating sites are so concerned with seeming cool and noncommittal. But that doesn’t give you a chance to show off how fun and unique you are. Or what you actually want from a partner. If you’re looking for a long-term thing. Make that apparent in your responsiveness to messages, your follow up to dates, by being authentic. If you just want a casual thing, be clear on that.
The most common mistake
It’s not online shopping, but it feels a lot like that, so we approach it that way. I recommend getting to the in-person meet as quickly as possible. Because the online experience of someone is not always what it feels like to be with them across a table.
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