How to Tell if Someone Secretly Dislikes You

How to Tell if Someone Secretly Dislikes You

How to tell if someone secretly dislikes you. Have you noticed one of your friends acting strange whenever you’re around? Trying to form a friendship or a relationship with someone who doesn’t want to is just a waste of time and energy.

Trying to distinguish whether or not people actually like you may sound incredibly depressing, but it can be helpful. Weeding out the people who don’t want to spend time with you and keeping those who do, will lead to establishing better bonds and save you a lot of heartache in the process.

So here’s how to tell if someone secretly dislikes you!


They Have Closed Body Language

Body language can easily give off what people are truly thinking or feeling. Negative or hostile body language is a good indicator that someone isn’t all that interested in conversing with you.

They may cross their arms, lean away, physically turn their body or point their feet away from you.

They Scratch Their Neck

Repeated neck touching or scratching can signal different emotions. From being flirty, to extreme anxiety. But it can also mean that someone is lying!

If you’re talking with somebody who keeps touching or scratching the side of their neck below the ear, it could mean they’re either lying to you or are secretly disagreeing with whatever you’re saying.

They Don’t Smile

Smiling is a subconscious reaction to seeing or feeling a pleasant sensation. Therefore, real smiles cannot be faked. Genuine smiles use different muscles in the face than fake ones do, and the muscles around the eyes simply don’t engage when someone is faking it.

Fake smiles are usually painfully obvious, they kind of remind you of the smile you made on school picture day.

They Don’t Look You In The Eye

Making eye contact with someone is much more difficult if you don’t respect them. People who don’t look you in the eye are usually trying to hide something.

They might be afraid that you’ll be able to detect their disdain, so they keep their head down and try to avoid interacting with you as much as possible.

Now, a lack of eye contact may not always mean that someone doesn’t like you. Factors such as anxiety can affect whether or not someone looks you in the eye, so don’t rely too heavily upon this one sign.

Your Conversations Are Short

Someone who enjoys talking with you will engage actively in the conversation. You can talk about many different topics for a reasonable amount of time.

However, someone who doesn’t want to interact with you will try to keep the conversation short. When you ask a question or tell a story that requires them to answer back, they’ll most likely give you short responses.

They Don’t Compliment You

This sign is a bit more obvious. Whenever you accomplish a goal, small or big, you should expect at least a little joy and praise from the people around you.

Someone who doesn’t like you probably won’t congratulate you for your victories, because they might not care all that much, or they secretly want you to fail.

People who dislike you will usually try to bring you down, and they often do this out of jealousy or envy.

They Change The Tone Of Their Voice

You can tell a lot about what a person thinks of you by the tone of their voice. Knowing how to pick out specific nuances in a person’s voice can help determine how they feel toward you.

If they always sound condescending and sarcastic, even to the point of being rude and insensitive, they don’t like you enough to even try and be polite.

There Is Little Or No Touch

Whether it’s a platonic or a romantic relationship, people touch when they are interested in being around each other.

Touching can indicate and be used for many things. To show affiliation or commitment in a relationship, initiate physical intimacy, or even provide emotional support. If the person avoids any, and all physical contact, it could be a sign that they don’t like you that much.

They Won’t Laugh At Your Jokes

Regardless of how funny you are, someone who doesn’t like you won’t laugh at your jokes. Or they’ll just fake a smile.

This can also extend to not liking any of your social media posts. Whether or not they find what you say or post appealing, they won’t want to show any interest and validate you at all.

They Constantly Disagree With You

Someone who regularly shoots down your ideas probably doesn’t like or respect you. If it feels that a person dismisses every thought or idea you have before you even get the sentence out, it’s often a sign that their dislike for you has clouded their judgment.

They Always Let You Down

In life, not everything goes according to plan, and things fall through. But if the other person is repeatedly canceling and making up excuses, you should take the hint.

People are busy with everyday life, but if someone genuinely likes you, they usually at least try to make time for you or compromise. And if they really can’t hang out, they’ll find some way to make it up to you.

They’ll Try To Be Close To You

Some people try to keep their friends close and their enemies closer. This one may be harder to detect, but if you pay attention, you will be able to catch it. They will try exceedingly hard to become friends with you.

A sign of this is if they endlessly gossip with you about other people. Which means they’re definitely doing the same thing to you behind your back.

Things Just Feel Awkward

There are going to be awkward moments, but if you feel uncomfortable around someone all the time, it may be a sign you just don’t click. Maybe there are too many long silences. Or you just feel weird being around them.

Being attracted to other people, whether platonically or romantically, is based on a lot of factors you don’t understand or control. So, if things are just awkward or uncomfortable, take it as a lesson and find someone to hang with who you feel good around.

You’ve Got A Sneaking Suspicion

Our instincts about people are correct more often than not. No matter how polite someone is to you or how positive their body language is, if you feel like something is just off about them, you should listen to your gut.

Your subconscious mind might have picked up something that your conscious mind didn’t, and whatever it is, if they set off alarm bells for seemingly no reason, it’s a sign that something is amiss.

When it comes to any kind of relationship, it can be helpful to know how to tell if someone secretly dislikes you. This doesn’t mean you should be overanalysing every person you come into contact with. Constantly worrying about whether or not people like you isn’t a good way to live your life.

However, knowing how to read the signs can make your life and interacting with other people, much easier. If you feel that someone doesn’t like you as much as you thought, don’t worry too much about it. Instead, work on building relationships with people who make you feel good and are worthy of your time.

So that’s it, that’s how to tell if someone secretly dislikes you. What do you think? Do you have any tips for how to tell if someone secretly dislikes you? Share your thoughts and comments below.

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