Today, we’re going to look at the power forgiveness can have in your life. Ultimately, it’s the clearing of any unnecessary, toxic energy that you may not even realise you are carrying around with you. These bad feelings, draw in more bad feelings and have the tendency to block the positive that you’re working so hard to attract.
Holding onto your resentment is like taking poison and waiting for your enemies to die…
Whatever happened, happened. Holding onto it, will not change this fact, it will just lower your frequency. I want to make one thing clear, forgiveness is about taking care of you. Not the person who wronged you. It’s about putting your right to a fantastic life, above your need to feel justified. It’s all about recognising that only you are in control of your happiness, not somebody else. Do not believe for one second, that by forgiving someone you are letting them get away with it. When you forgive someone you let yourself get away with it. Forgiveness has nothing to do with being kind to them and everything to do with being kind to yourself.
So how do you do it?
How do you actually get rid of the need for vindication? The first step (and probably the most difficult) is to find compassion. Now, finding compassion for whoever it was who wronged you, even if that someone was yourself is like tweezing a painful wood splinter out of your toe. You may hate the idea at first, and resist, because erm it hurts right? But in the end, it’s the only way to not end up with an infected toe!
One of the easiest ways to find compassion is to imagine the person as a child. A child that doesn’t know any better and is only reacting with the tools they’ve been taught. Hurt people, hurt people and chances are they were broken way before they ever crossed your path.
The next step is to remove the ideas you hold of this person.
Imagine that it’s your wedding day and you have two bridesmaids. Both of them don’t show up on the wedding day! One of them didn’t materialise because they went out partying the night before and totally overslept. The other found out that her dad suddenly died and had to fly back home, forgetting to call you in the chaos. Both of these people’s actions end in the same outcome. You’re left with no bridesmaids on your wedding day! However, I’m sure that you’d react very differently to each one. Take the person out of the situation in your mind and just deal with the outcome. It’s not about them anyway, it’s about you right?
The next option?
Let it go. Is it really worth carrying these negative feelings around with you for the short amount of time you’re on the planet? Remember that you won’t even remember this. I bet you can’t remember a time when you were pissed off 2 years ago. And even if you can, do you still get the same level of pissed off when you remember it? Whatever you’re needing to use the power of forgiveness on right now, will also be long forgotten in the future. What’s the point in potentially shortening your own life through stress if you’re likely going to forget about this by next year anyway? Start forgiving and forgetting now and save yourself the hassle. All you have to do is stop and let go of your attachment to this other person. It’s that simple. What you focus on, you create more of.
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