How To Use Dating Apps When You’re Over 40
Make sure you’re on the right app
There are actually big differences between dating apps — OkCupid, Tinder, Bumble, Match. You need to have the right strategy going into it and stick to your goal like you would any other online strategy. The other thing to keep in mind is to take your time. Value yourself and your safety. Don’t feel obligated to meet with someone out of politeness if they’re making you feel uneasy or are making you feel rushed. And, of course, do your research!
What all the kids are using these days? Tinder
Tinder is an online dating app that matches couples based on their physical attraction to one another. It alerts you to other Tinder users who fall within a specified age range and gender and are within a certain distance of your location, and it lets you know whether you have any mutual friends.
You decide whether or not you like the look of a person: if you do, great; if you don’t, they’ll never know. If you’re both interested then Tinder’s messaging function offers you a private chat thread in which to talk and get to know each other better. It’s very much like being introduced to the friend of a friend in a bar.
Get your profile photo right
If you’re not having many matches make sure your profile shows the real you so you’ll attract the people you’re best suited to. A smile is perceived as being the most attractive facial expression. Users who smile are 14 percent more likely to be swiped right on, because people who smile are deemed as being more kind and approachable. And, if you’re one of those people obsessed with your good side in photos, it turns out posing straight-on can actually result in more matches.
Be open about who you are and what you want
Many people using dating apps are so concerned with seeming cool and noncommittal. But that doesn’t give you a chance to show off how fun and unique you are. Or what you actually want from a dating app. If you’re looking for a long-term thing. Make that apparent in your responsiveness to messages, your follow up to dates, by being authentic and vulnerable. If you just want a casual thing. Be clear on that and don’t confuse people by being misleading.
The biggest mistake people make is looking for a checklist instead of a connection
It’s not online shopping, but it feels a lot like that, so we approach it that way. I recommend getting to the in-person meet as quickly as possible. Because the online experience of someone is not always what it feels like to be with them across a table.
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