9 Reasons Why That Bad Boy Is Not the Guy For You

9 Reasons Why That Bad Boy Is Not the Guy For You

Beware of the wolf: Bad boys can be exceptionally hard to spot because they’re incredibly charming. You must interpret subtle clues so you won’t get blindsided by a wolf in sheep’s clothing. Remember, past behavior foreshadows future behavior. Has he cheated before? Then there’s a good chance he’ll do it again. Does he have a reputation as a player? Yeah, that’s a bad boy.

They’ll never make you feel emotionally, physically or spiritually safe: You may feel financially safe with him, but that’s not enough. He’ll be the one criticising what you wear or how you do things. A good guy may offer constructive criticism but he does it in a loving way that encourages your personal growth.

And you’re probably a repeat offender: If you find you’re always dating a guy who makes you feel paranoid, insecure or just plain bad, it might be time to take an honest look within. Bad boys can be a lot of fun, but they’re usually not the best pick for a functional long-term relationship, so if you find yourself repeatedly going back for more, you may want to do a little soul-searching. If you’re addicted to the emotional roller coaster, it’s time to detox and learn to get your thrills elsewhere.

They’re usually a narcissist who wants his way in every situation: He’ll manipulate you into doing what he wants to do, even when you say no. When you give in, you end up feeling like you betrayed yourself. A good guy will honour your wishes, even when they are at odds with his own.

You can’t introduce him to your family: Your mother would nod disapprovingly, and your father would kill him, so you know to keep him away.

They only care about having their needs met: Your needs fall far below his on the priority list. A good guy is into pleasing you and making you happy. If he’s not, let him go.

You’ll never change his bad-boy ways: There’s a big difference between the bad-boy fantasy and the reality, this is not the movies. He won’t fall for you and change his ways. The sooner you realise there are no Hollywood endings with bad boys, the happier you’ll be. Bad boys have a limited capacity for love, commitment and everything nice. If you think that by caring for him enough and nurturing him enough, you can will him to make you his one and only, you’re living in a world other than reality.

Their actions rarely match their words: A good guy will always follow through on what he tells you. When he can’t, he’ll let you know and won’t leave you trying to figure out what happened. If a man is not doing this, he’s not worthy of dating you.

And they’re much more likely to be passive-aggressive: If you’re trying to work an issue out, he’ll act like everything is OK. Then, around other people, he bad-mouths your decision, looking for confirmation from others that he is right. A good guy will work issues out with you and even if he disagrees with the final decision, he will keep it to himself.

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